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how do you control rage at people who are happy who've had easy lives?

i see it on this mental health forum, on this mental health section, people whinning about their minor problems , that they feel suicidle over.......i find it greatly pathetic and it fuels me to feel ' enraged ' .....i clench my teeth and i feel like ' ripping in ' - , '' deeply '' to these people . i have endured a very unfair - unjust life up to now and gone through '' persistent '' severity and extremity. i struggle with rage regularly which is my number 1 problem in life - and people like this i want to really lose it with - this has been the basic scenario of my life so far - im 31 , had a tough - misfortunate life so far , i have complex psychological problems as a result from my hard life, including PTSD , ocd , BPD , agoraphobia , severe anxiety and possibly rapid cycling bipolar. the mental health services have failed me up to now and im still struggling to get the right treatment and therapy because of lack of resources - so i have to fight for the care and treatment including making complaints. ive missed out on a good life so far , a life of building relationships.....being employed....getting qualifications....everything you can think of , etc , etc. because of this, im socially cut off, and dont have any social support network. - except my loving , special mum. ive lived in my own apartment for 5 years now on disability.....doing well without any help......controlling my symptoms of severe rage....agoraphobia....severe anxiety....flashbacks.....disocociation etc...................with only my faithful mother for help...love and support..........whos been there for me all my life through all the severe traumatic times. ive made mistakes in life including going to prison in my adolecence for assault.......being amitted to a mental hospital also 10 years ago. my left ankle is in a cast right now because it was operated on 4 weeks ago, because i torn ankle ligaments months ago.............my mum staying with me looking after me...............i cant do much right now. i feel, very, very , very insecure in life, as i have been all my life.....lonely.....abandoned in life.....very insecure. in the world coping with all my psychiatric problems....alone in my apartment, coping with borderline personality. with a failing mental health service ...... this has been my life up to now at 31 - i sometimes ring the suicide helpline just to vent my rage - while teeth clenched - and rip into the helpline work.............shouting angry threats, saying violent words to describe my rage ! they laugh or hang up or put the phone down. seriously i need a lot of help to which im not getting because of mental health service failures. how can i not lose it at these happy people with fresh faced looks with their minor problems ? i have a powerful urge to lose it with them and with the fickleness or their '' weak ' behaviour . how can i control my rage until i get regular help and therapy ?

Public Comments

1. Trying something like boxing. Or set up one of those punching bags at home. If your really full of anger just hit it all out until your calm or have no more energy. I could tell you to do yoga and practice breathing although in all honesty these things don't work...in my opinion. I had a cruddy life growing up. So I defiantly know what you mean about getting ticked at people complaining over the littlest of things. (Those who don't know what real problems are.)
2. Perhaps stay off that part of the forums if it angers you that much. Everyone deals with their own problems in a different way--what may seem like no big deal to you, is a huge deal to someone else. You need to stop comparing your problems to other peoples problems. I know you've had a hard life, but its just making things more complicated. It also sounds like you have anger management issues, which is sort of to be expected when dealing with all that you have. Perhaps seek some classes on how to control your anger, or even find some online support... because your not the only one with rage issues.
3. buy a punching bag or lift weights. releases anger and a good workout.
4. I'm sorry for all your dreadful misfortunes and tragedies. Well done for managing to control your rage so far. How have you managed to do this up to now? Maybe you're mentally stronger than you think. Just as well, if you're not getting any help other than from your special mother. As for wanting to vent your anger on people who don't know what it's like to have to struggle, I've never found other people's apparent feelings make any actual, I mean real, difference to one's own personal feelings. If I break my leg and go to hospital and find another 40 people waiting who've also broken their legs, it doesn't actually decrease the pain in my leg to know there's 41 of us all in the same boat. Whether I'm the only one, and everyone else is OK, or whether I'm one of 41, it still hurts the same! Making other people hurt doesn't stop your own 'broken leg' hurting... I do hope you get the help you want, and God bless your lovely loving Mum.
5. whoa guy, right now just chill. i hate those people who havent gone through what other people havent but you cant just solve that by ripping out their guts and bashing their heads in cuz it doesnt solve anything except more problems dude. ive gone through some pretty hard times in my life that are implanted in my head and will never be erased but i cant let that ruin me. yes, ive had suicidal moments but i was really down in the fire pits of hell then i moved and realized that i cant control everything bad that happens in life. life is life, forget those people who have good lives and people who havent gone through what you have. their stuck up jerks and people who are whimpy and you dont need to listen to anything like that. feel free to contact me at peteroxoutloud@yahoo.com if you want to talk or something. :)
6. I just be happy that I now have a happy life but the difference is I had to work for mine, I didn't have everything handed to me on a plate, I achieved it myself and people who have always had the easy life won't get the satisfaction of having done well for themselves, Seth.
7. Sort through all the answers you've had over the past day or so. There are only so many answers to life's problems. You are wasting your time by asking for advice on here over and over again. There is no magic wand on here. Group the answers. Choose your categories. My suggestions: impossible, can do soon, can do if have more resources - but you decide.
8. I deal with it the same way I deal with reading your problems. I read that you have had such a horrible life because some kids beat you up in school and now live on disability with money coming in and don't have to work. On the other hand, I have a friend who is paralyzed and tries to work even from a wheelchair having lost his ability to even have sex and likely will never get the chance for marriage let alone kids. I have another friend who lost everything when her husband died of ALS. The list goes on. But instead I mangage to read through your problems you have decided are so much bigger than everyone elses and not clench my teeth or want to head butt the computer screen