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Worst depression of my life, I can hardly deal, gf pregnant, raging hormones, dumped me, HELP!!! I AM SO LOST!

My gf is 5 months pregnant and going through a lot right now. She dumped me and I love her very much and want to be there for her, marry her, and start a family. We both work, I have health insurance and I look forward to a baby. But with me being dumped (hopefully hormones) I am so depressed I can hardly function and I am going to the doc today. I have rapid heart beat, lost about 18 lbs now in 4 days, worry, shake, withdrawing from family, friends, I am irritable, I am not showing this to her at all. I am a freaken nervous wreck. People at work irritate me. I havent eaten anything in 4 days and cant really even take in fluids. I have a hard time falling asleep and staying asleep. I pray to god every night for things to be ok. I find my faith being tested and I just cry. I am going to try and get something from the doc to ease my pain and I know it is not a cure but I am having doubts it will work. I am just so down in the dumps and have never gone through a storm like this before. I want to be there for her. I dont want to be a dead beat dad. I actually look forward to a child. I just dont want to be a single parent sharing a child. I look forward to a baby smiling at me and craping and puking on me when I get home. I have dreamed about this and I think this is the only thing helping me to hold on. I am at work right now and feel like I am about to just break down at my desk. I dont know how people who are chronically depressed deal with this feeling. I am afraid for my health as well. I have never gone 4 days without eating or lost about 18lbs in 4 days and eating anything makes me feel sick. I tried eating some saltine crackers yesterday with water and couldnt even eat two of them and I drank about 3 sips of water and about threw up.

Public Comments

1. You are love sick... I dont exactly know what to say that could make you feel better, is except your a good guy. Most females would kill to be with someone like. Think about it, thats her lost...
2. This is definately not the place to find help, you really need to go and talk to somebody about this. Find a counseling center, call up your Insurance provider see who they cover, and go and talk to them about whats going on. You sound like your really depressed, and this can be very scary, sometimes talking to somebody can help, they can help you straighten out your thoughts and if things are really bad, get you some medication to take that edge off. Hope this helps, and I know you can make it through this tough time.
3. well to start with i wish there was more men out there like you give yourself a pat on the back honey you need to share your pain with her you need to tell her how much you love her ask her why she is doing this there is alway's to sided to every storie so find out her side honey don't be so hard on yourself it will be alright go to her and take her some flower's or candy beg her to let you help her some women just go off the deep in when they get pregant
4. Take a deep breath. Her hormones are not your problem. Relax and don't take things so seriously.. Give it a day.. Don't call her.. What precipitating the "dumping"? email or IM her once, write a simple note. Tell her simply, "Call when you are ready to talk about this"
5. My step-father was like that when my mother divorced him. He's doing better now; he has a better job and he's saving up some money to buy a new place. I think you should pray; call His name and ask for help. You can still be a devoted father without being that girl's boyfriend. Do whatever you can to provide for the child. You can handle this; don't let this get you down. I know that's easy for me to say, especially since I've never been in your situation, but I believe you are STRONG enough to pull through this. It will hurt for a while, but eventually the pain will fade. I'll pray for you and I wish you good luck in the future.
6. Hang in there. I am happy you are going to see someone about this. Hopefully she will come around. If you aren't showing her how lost you are without her maybe you should. Just don't let her see all the other stuff you are going through yet, she might see this as a weakness. Tell her how excited you are about sharing a life with her and the baby. Make sure you make the conversation mostly about how much you care for her not so much the baby. Some moms-to-be get into a stage of jealousy towards the baby because now it isn't about her anymore it is about the baby. If none of this works you sound like a good guy and it will be her lose. Good luck. Keep your head up high. And eat, baby doesn't need a dad who isn't doing well.
7. See http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris on pages 2 & 3.